Saturday, June 23, 2007

A mom's dilemma

In my opinion there is sometimes a very fine line between protecting your children, being a good parent and "over-protecting" your children. (I have been accused occasionally of being over protective.) Yesterday was one of those days that I got caught in the middle - trying to decide which side of the fence I was on. The boys (ages 15 and 16) wanted to go swimming at the local lake with their friends. They wanted to go with their friends, not their mother.

In order to get to said lake, they would have to ride their bikes about 3 miles on a sparsely populated, wooded dirt road. In my day, I wouldn't have thought twice biking that road - I did it many, many times. In today's world of "icky" people - I don't like my children biking on such an isolated road. Now, my boys are not small children, they both play center for the school football team. They have also been taught to be polite and respectful of the people they meet as well as how to handle themselves if they were in trouble.

I let them go...I worried about them... I made them call me at start and finish and before they started for home. Protective or over-protective? I don't know - I do the best I can and pray a lot.


Anonymous said...

I think I would have done exactly as you did. As always, you are one of my parenting role models. Plus, I'm pretty sure your boys could "take" just about anyone out there :)

Anonymous said...

sounds to me like they were breed for football but seriously mom they would be fine especially the two of them